Deeper intimacy. Greater freedom.
In life and love.


Guiding men, women and couples on the path of deep union, true spirituality
and embodied transformation

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What women want (and men want to give)

This 35-minute workshop covers the foundations of masculine-feminine dynamics and sexual polarity, and how they play out in an intimate relationship.

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Return to love. Ignite attraction. Step into a new paradigm of intimate relationship.

Your relationship is where all your stuff shows up – your patterns, triggers, wounds, and conditioning. This can be a source of real suffering, leading to distance and disconnection. Or it can be a powerful path of healing, where you grow together and cultivate the kind of love, intimacy, and depth you know is possible.

The kind of relationship where love flows freely. Where you feel safe to share the truth of your heart. Where conflict brings you closer. Where sex becomes a path to liberation. And where the energy between you feels undeniably magnetic.

Allan’s work is devoted to awakening this kind of intimacy.

His approach integrates the therapeutic, yogic, and sacred, bridging ancient spiritual traditions with modern psychology.

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Coaching and Mentorship

Private coaching with Allan is reserved for a small number of dedicated men, women, and couples who are ready to invest in deep, transformative work.

FOR MEN

Step into a life of presence, purpose, and grounded masculine power. This work supports you to break through patterns and beliefs that are holding you back, so you can lead with clarity, strength, and integrity as the man, partner, and father you know you’re here to be.

FOR WOMEN

Come back to the part of you that knows how to feel, receive, and trust life. Through healing old wounds and unraveling the patterns that have kept you guarded, this work supports a deeper return to your feminine power and the kind of love and freedom your heart has always known is possible.

FOR COUPLES

Restore the spark, repair the ruptures, and reopen the current of love running between you. This work supports you in moving through resentment and disconnection, so you can deepen intimacy, cultivate masculine-feminine polarity, and create a relationship that feels truly alive.

Your coaching container is tailored to meet you where you are, and guide you towards the life and relationship you want.

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  • "It would not be an exaggeration to say that the coaching I received from Allan saved my marriage. It was exactly what we needed. 

    Allan made me feel 100% safe and 100% validated, and he provided the strong masculine energy that my husband desperately needed. Allan is truly gifted in this work"

    Heather McKean, wellness coach and author

  • "Allan is one the best, if not the best, coaches I've ever worked with by far.

    I’ve learned things that I never knew were even possible with Allan. He’s transformed my life, my relationships, he’s helped me to become a more integral person, transformed my intimate relationship beyond what I thought was even possible. I could not recommend him enough. He’s probably one of the most conscious, present coaches I’ve ever worked with and anyone that has the pleasure to have Allan as a coach or a mentor is very fortunate because this man is the real deal.”

    Jordan B

  • "I am walking away feeling like a lifelong veil was lifted, as If I just started living my life.

    Working with Allan as my men’s coach was truly transformational. It showed me this inner strength I never knew I had, and now I am showing up present and loving in my day to day life. I am walking away feeling like a lifelong veil was lifted, as If I just started living my life. Allan has helped me align my life in ways I did not think were possible.”

    Patrick

  • "My life wouldn’t be what it is today without Allan’s guidance – hands down.

    I’ve worked with many others in this field, but nothing compares to the way Allan teaches and facilitates. The word that comes to mind is integrity. His approach feels so pure, clear, and grounded. I’ve often felt resistance to how some people in this industry present their work – it can feel disconnected or overly abstract. But Allan’s connection to what’s truly real, combined with his willingness to engage with the world as it is, sets him apart. His teaching isn’t just insightful; it’s tangible and relatable in a way that makes the work deeply impactful."

    Austin Armstrong, coach

  • "The work my husband did with Allan changed the trajectory of our lives.

    Allan, thank you, thank you, thank you for holding such divine space for my man to come alive."

    Kendra Williams, coach

  • "You see a lot of people talk the talk, but Allan really walks the walk. He really lives and embodies what he’s teaching people.

    Observing how he’s worked with me through our 1:1 work and observing how he worked within the men’s group has been absolutely incredible."

    Yasir S

  • "I’m able now to move through life’s challenging situations with more joy and ease and an extraordinary amount of self-confidence.

    I cannot share enough how significant this work has been for me. Growing out of fear and insecurity, being able to step into my masculine power and be fully present with what I carry inside as well as what those around me are carrying has been huge. I feel miraculously at peace. I’m able now to move through life’s challenging situations with more joy and ease and an extraordinary amount of self-confidence, much more than I had ever thought possible. If you’re thinking about doing this work, I’d highly recommend it.”

    Shaun M

“My mission is to help you get more free in life, love, and intimacy. And I believe relationships are the perfect place to do just that–to heal, grow, and to become whole.”

Allan is a masterful coach, teacher, and mentor in the realm of love, relationships, and deep intimacy. His work is a transformational journey for men, women, and couples, helping them break free from the unconscious patterns that have kept them from experiencing true connection, freedom and aliveness.

For more than a decade, he has devoted himself to a path of personal practice, self-exploration, and study with some of the world’s foremost teachers of embodiment, masculine-feminine polarity, spirituality, and conscious relationships.

Allan not only teaches this work, he lives and breathes it every day. It’s given him the capacity to have a profoundly fulfilling, purpose-driven life, and a deeply intimate, heart-centered relationship.

His life’s work is guiding others into the same depths of love, purpose, and openness.

Allan is also the founder of the men’s work organization, Thirteen Pines, and he currently lives in Boulder, Colorado, with his wife, Ashae.

Black and white portrait of Allan McGrath Isbell, sacred relationship and intimacy coach, based in Boulder, Colorado.

Meet Allan

Work with Allan

"My experience working with Allan has
been out of this world. 

Allan has guided me profoundly through deep healing with men, myself, my family, and money. Thank you, Allan, for everything."

— Kay Ferah

Let your natural essence guide you back into deep intimacy


At the core of Allan’s work is the sacred dance of polarity - the magnetic force that draws the masculine and feminine together in their most natural and powerful expression.

He works intimately with couples, guiding you through the challenges that arise in deep relationships, helping you to rediscover the passion, connection, and trust that may have been lost.

He also works with individuals, supporting you to embody and express your natural essence and live more powerfully, abundantly, and effortlessly.

With Allan’s guidance, you will awaken the kind of love, intimacy, and depth in your relationship that you’ve been longing for.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • Most likely, you won’t know for sure if this is right for you until you’ve applied and had a clarity call with Allan.

    But based on Allan’s years of coaching dozens of clients and working with thousands of men, women, and couples, these are a few of the most common things people seek Allan’s support with:

    • Rebuilding trust, connection, and love in your relationship.

    • Awakening the deepest levels of intimacy, freedom, and aliveness with a partner.​

    • Learning to trust yourself, express your truth, and find your path.

    • Stepping fully into your life's purpose with confidence and clarity.​

    • Working through your wounds, patterns, and conditioning.

    • Becoming the most true, empowered, free version of yourself.

    • Exploring the arts of masculine-feminine energetics, polarity and sexual yoga either with a partner or in preparation for one.


    If you resonate with any of the above, there’s a high chance this work is right for you.

    We recommend applying and scheduling a clarity call with Allan where you can better understand if this is a fit.

  • Yes. Many of Allan’s clients are single.

    While relationships are a central part of Allan’s work, he isn’t exclusively a relationship coach. He works individually with both men and women, as well as with couples.

    It just so happens that most of our “stuff” tends to come up in relationship.

    Often, people come to Allan after a relationship has ended and brought deeper wounds or recurring patterns to the surface. Others want to do this work before entering their next relationship, so they can better understand themselves and show up differently when they meet someone.

    Allan also coaches men in the ways of conscious masculine leadership, which naturally shapes how a man shows up in relationship.

    At its core, the work is about becoming more free from the patterns that hold you back, and more able to show up fully in your life and relationships.

  • Couple’s therapy tends to focus on the mind and talking things through, which can be great, but has its limitations.

    Allan’s work integrates the therapeutic, yogic, and sacred and takes a holistic mind, body, and spirit approach.

    There will be space to talk, but you may also be invited to drop into your body, breathe, move, and express to touch the deeper parts of yourself.

    You will leave most sessions with practical tools and/or practices that you can start applying in your life right away.

  • When you apply for coaching, you’ll have a clarity call with Allan to understand how he can best serve you.

    Coaching packages are typically a minimum of five months with 2-4 sessions each month. For couples, you can choose to have a mix of individual and couple sessions.

    This isn’t a one-size-fits-all thing. Your package will be tailored to your specific journey.

  • Coaching sessions are typically held on Zoom. However, if you live in or near Boulder it may be possible to meet in person.

  • You can email allan@allanmcgrathisbell.com or apply via the form here.

Upcoming Events

Polarity & Intimacy
5-Day Immersion

October 22-26 | Boulder, CO

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Origin 3-Day Men’s Immersion

September 11-13 | Denver, CO

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